March can be a very unpredictable month.
The old saying,"In like a lion and out like a lamb" captures the mood of March.
In the midst of this tumultuous season, two very special events happen that are near and dear to my heart.
The first is St. Patrick's Day.
My husband and I met on this very special day many moons ago. Though I don't have a speck of Irish in me, I'd like to think that some of the "Luck o The Irish" can come my way during this time of year.
If I'm not careful, though, I can start to believe that luck or wishful thinking has anything to do with creating a great marriage. Nothing could be further from the truth. A great marriage involves two people consciously and intentionally creating the kind of marriage they desire together.
If each spouse is dedicated to taking personal responsibility for how they act and what they do to create the marriage they want, the relationship will continue to thrive.
Does that mean perfection? No way! It may involve falling many times. But it also means having the courage to get back on track together again and again.
This brings me to the second special event that occurs in March.
The beautiful season of spring emerges with the promise of new beginnings.
During the cold winter months when I visit my garden, I swear that there is no way anything can grow from that frozen soil and the dry brown underbrush. But lo and behold, every spring those sweet little shoots of life begin to pop up.
New life can blossom in your marriage too, sometimes when you least expect it.
Here are 3 necessary seeds you can plant in your marriage this spring to help keep it alive and vibrant.
- Make Time to Connect in a Healthy Way Each Day
Spring flowers need sunshine and water to blossom and your marriage needs your precious time and energy each day to helps it thrive.
Here are some suggestions:
- A simple kiss goodbye in the morning
- A quick text just to say, "I'm thinking of you."
- A brief "How was your day?" huddle to catch up on the days events
2. Maintain An Attitude of Gratitude
What you focus on expands. Make a conscious effort to notice the things you love and appreciate about your spouse and express this appreciation often.
Here's what that might sound like:
- "Thank you so much for taking the initiative to give the kids a bath tonight."
- "Wow, you look great in that shirt!"
- "That was really generous of you to pick up the tab for dinner with my parents."
3.Random Acts of Kindness
It's the little things that count. This could mean bringing in the groceries or putting on the coffee in the morning. Or it might be calling your partner during the day just to say, "Hi."
On some days it could be a surprise, like getting tickets for a special event, bringing home a favorite dessert or scraping ice from the car in the morning before your partner wakes up.
Be creative. Experience the thrill in the unexpected.
New life can blossom in a marriage, sometimes when you least expect it. But don't count on luck or wishful thinking to make it happen.
It happens when you make a commitment to give your marriage the time and attention it needs to blossom into the amazing relationship you really want to have.
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