The beautiful season of spring has emerged with the promise of new beginnings.
During the cold winter months when I visit my garden, I swear that there is no way anything can grow from that frozen soil and the dry brown underbrush. But lo and behold, every spring those sweet little shoots of life begin to pop up.
New life can blossom in your marriage too, sometimes when you least expect it. Here are three necessary seeds you can plant in your marriage this spring to help keep it alive and vibrant.
- Random Acts of Kindness
It's the little things that count. This could mean bringing in the groceries or putting on the coffee in the morning. Or it might be calling your partner during the day just to say, "Hi."
On some days it could be a surprise, like getting tickets for a special event, bringing home a favorite dessert, or scraping ice off the car on a cold winter morning before your partner wakes up.
Be creative! Experience the thrill in the unexpected.
- Personal Responsibility
When couples come to see me and each partner is blaming the other I know we have some serious work to do. If you want to make real change in your relationship, focus on what you can do to make positive change rather than wishing and wondering when your partner is going to change.
- Attitude of Gratitude
There have been countless studies showing how gratitude can dramatically improve your life. When you focus on what you want instead of what you don’t want, more of what you want shows up. (It was actually always there, you just didn't notice it). When you apply this to your relationship, you begin to see your partner and your marriage in a fresh new light.
To help you practice this I have a fun activity you can do which is found in the toolkit you receive when you join my “Love Your Marriage” FB group.
New life can blossom in a marriage even after a cold hard winter. It just may need some extra TLC to make it happen.
So make a commitment today to give your marriage the time and attention it needs to blossom into the amazing relationship you really want to have.
If you would like to talk to me personally about how to have a more passionate and supportive marriage, just click here for more information about how to set up a Discovery Session with me.