• Home
    • Take My Marriage Quiz
    • About Christine
    • IMAGO INTERNATIONAL
    • FAQ
  • Blog
    • Love Your Marriage Couples Program
    • Couples Counseling Sessions
  • Love Your Marriage Community
  • Let's Talk!
  • Contact
Menu

Christine Wilke | LMFT

139 N. Third St.
Easton, PA 18042
(610) 746-3087
Helping couples develop supportive, satisfying relationships.

Christine Wilke | LMFT

  • Home
    • Home
    • Take My Marriage Quiz
  • About Me
    • About Christine
    • IMAGO INTERNATIONAL
    • FAQ
  • Blog
  • Services
    • Love Your Marriage Couples Program
    • Couples Counseling Sessions
  • Love Your Marriage Community
  • Let's Talk!
  • Contact
clinking+glasses.jpg.png

Stronger Marriage Blog

Stronger Marriage blog to help couples build stronger, healthier marriages. 

Want to do some spring cleaning in your marriage?

March 18, 2024 Christine Wilke
clean house_268730282.jpg

Oh the wonders of spring. A time to look ahead to brighter days and warmer weather. This is the season of new life and new possibilities. "Out with the old and in with the new." 

It's time to clean out those old closets and do some spring cleaning. Not just for your house, but for your relationship too. 

So let's dig out those "cleaning" tools and start revitalizing your relationship.  

THE POWER OF THE 3PS

1) perspective

I believe that life is 99% perspective What you focus on expands. When you focus on the flaws in your relationship that's what you'll experience. On the other hand if you choose to focus on the good stuff, that's what you'll see. Of course when there's a lot of conflict in a marriage it tends to cover over all the positive like a big black cloud and you can't even see the good that may be right in front of your eyes. 

This is when anger, frustration and misunderstanding can really take hold.

You need to be like strength detectives in your marriage, searching and amplifying the positive in each other and in the relationship. Start by taking the time each day to recall one thing you appreciate about your spouse. It could be something they did like putting the coffee on in the morning before you wake up. Or it could be their beautiful smile. 

And don't keep all of this a secret. Let your spouse know how much you appreciate him or her and watch them really sparkle.

2) Personal Responsibility

When couples come in for counseling with me and the first thing each of them talks about is what’s wrong with their spouse I start thinking  - "Uh oh, we’ve got some work to do here."

Focusing on what’s wrong with your spouse will get you nowhere and it will keep you stuck in the problem. It’s going to make you feel frustrated and more like a victim that a full participant in your relationship.

It's so much more empowering to focus your precious energy on what you can do to make positive change rather than wishing and wondering when your partner is going to change. 

Be the change you wish to see in your relationship.

2) Practice

When you want to create healthier habits in your life you have to practice new, positive behavior until it becomes automatic. The same is true for your relationship. You need to practice what you want, not what you don't want, until what you want becomes the new normal. 

This could be a regular Friday evening date night or a nightly walk around the block to chat about your day.

Creating healthier habits in your relationship is your ticket to a long and healthy relationship.

So, let's clean out those cob webs in your relationship and get ready to do some spring cleaning that really rocks!

Hope you found this newsletter insightful for your marriage. If you know one person who would benefit from this email you can "pay it forward" by forwarding this email to them. 

Are you still struggling in your marriage?

If you would like to talk to me personally about how to have a more passionate and supportive marriage, just click here for more information about how to set up a Discovery Session with me.

Featured
Screen Shot 2018-07-06 at 4.48.13 PM.png
Christine Wilke
Here's how to keep those fireworks out of your marriage!
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
Untitled design (2) copy 7.jpg
Christine Wilke
How To Give The Best Valentine's Day Gift Ever!
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
Christine Wilke
3 Fun Ideas to Give the Gift that Lasts!
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
Untitled design (2) copy 3.jpg
Christine Wilke
2 Easy Ways To Transform Your Relationship with Gratitude
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
Untitled design-11.jpg
Christine Wilke
It's Halloween, But Stop Wearing That Mask In Your Marriage
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
Christine Wilke
Are you Letting Your Marriage Get Lost in the Shuffle?
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
clean house_268730282.jpg
Christine Wilke
Want to do some spring cleaning in your marriage?
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
Christine Wilke
Marriage Makeover: 3 Steps To a Better Marriage In The New Year!
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
holday stress.jpg
Christine Wilke
How to Protect your Marriage from the Top 3 Holiday Stressors this Year
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
Christine Wilke
3 Ways to Help Your Marriage Blossom This Spring
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
Untitled design (2).jpg
Christine Wilke
6 Things You Can Do To Make Your Marriage A Top Priority.
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
older couple design.jpg
Christine Wilke
6 HABITS OF MARRIED COUPLES WHO SURVIVE THE LONG HAUL
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
Christine Wilke
What do marriage counselors and mechanics have in common?
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
Christine Wilke
Break These 3 Bad Habits and Have a Healthier Marriage
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
Christine Wilke
Are You Settling For Happiness In Your Marriage?
Christine Wilke

Looking for marital bliss? You could be searching down the wrong road.

Read More →
Christine Wilke
Christine Wilke
3 Ways to Create Emotional Safety in Your Marriage
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
shutterstock_195357371.jpg
Christine Wilke
How To Fight Fair in Your Marriage
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
15236372-romantic-vacation-couple-at-sundown-on-the-beach-with-car.jpg
Christine Wilke
4 Healthy Habits of Successful Couples
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
Untitled design.png
Christine Wilke
Having a Great Marriage Takes More Than Luck
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
shutterstock_250609648.jpg
Christine Wilke
5 Problems Husbands and Wives Have While Arguing
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
Untitled design (2).jpg
Christine Wilke
Is your phone ruining your marriage?
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
Untitled design.png
Christine Wilke
How To Help Your Marriage Survive This Crazy- Busy Fall
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
Closing the Exits in Your Marriage
Christine Wilke
Closing the Exits in Your Marriage
Christine Wilke

Protect your marriage by avoiding these four harmful behaviors.

Read More →
Christine Wilke
Christine Wilke
Want a Happier Marriage? Ask yourself this Question Every day.
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
Christine Wilke
3 Secrets Successful Couples Use To Make Their Marriage Great. (Hint: It’s not about luck!)
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
Christine Wilke
How To Make a Difference in Your Marriage
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
time.jpg
Christine Wilke
Making Time For Your Marriage
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
Christine Wilke
A Healthy Marriage Requires a Healthy You!
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
Screen Shot 2017-01-17 at 10.58.40 PM.png
Christine Wilke
A Marriage Counselor's Personal Story
Christine Wilke
Read More →
Christine Wilke
Christine Wilke
Is Your Marriage Crazy Busy?
Christine Wilke

Find out what to do if your marriage is crazy busy.

Read More →
Christine Wilke
In marriage healthy marriage
← Are you Letting Your Marriage Get Lost in the Shuffle?Recharge Your Marriage By Revamping Those New Year's Resolutions. →

Social Media and Email Links →

PRIVACY POLICY- ©2020 christine wilke Terms of Use